Dealing with narcissism: Common signs of a narcissist

The most common signs in a narcissist are:

• Love bombing, they shower you with attention and gifts to get what they want.

• They make you believe they are your soulmate.

• Self-centered, arrogant and selfish behavior.

• Desperate need of approval and admiration from others.

• Insecurity, they hide their poor self-esteem from everyone.

• No empathy and emotionally shallow.

• High sex drive but emotionally detached. Danger for the partner is that they are manipulated into having unwanted sex acts.

• History of troubled relationships. History of multiple sexpartners outside the relationship.

• Difficulty to accept other people’s views, opinions or achievements.

• Grandiosity and superiority in comparison with others.

• Comes over very charming.

• Lack of awareness or concern about their own behavior.

• Manipulative and possessive.

• Spreads lies and untruth or have a tendency to exaggerate situations.

• Say to do one thing in public and do exactly the opposite once out of sight.

• Expresses infantile values, physical attractiveness, power, wealth, clothing, manners, likeness.

• Highly intelligent.

• Frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies or belittles others.

• Defense mechanism is contempt.

• Pathological liars to the point of believing their own fantasy world and cannot differentiate between their world and the real world. With time the world becomes their reality, built to their own image.

• Made up fantasy world that includes boundless power and success, brilliance and “ideal love”.

• Observe and judge.

• Constantly reframes stories to make themselves the hero or victim. Due to this behavior others become confused and start doubting themselves.

• Often come out of a dysfunctional family or were treated differently at a very young age.

• Tend to form shallow friendships based on what people can do for them. No real friends. Friends are there for a purpose.

• Want absolute control.

• Find themselves unique and superior.

• Take good care of themselves.

• Will place themselves first.

• Display power and status and demand glorification.

• Defensive and verbally aggressive if being challenged or contradicted.

• Inaccurate and self-inflated self-assessment.

• Unethical and dishonest.

• Get away with breaking the law.

• Nothing is ever their fault.

• Bend the conversations to their advantages.